Psychology Of 1D

One direction, worth $1 billion. Most compare them to The Beatles, I don’t see why. They don’t have nearly a quarter of the talent The Beatles had. Yes they’re making LOADS of money and have billions of fans but I think there’s some another reason as to why that is.
Check this…
One directions fans are hormonal teenagers meaning they are most likely looking for something to belong to, a fandom perhaps will make them feel like they’re part of something, like they have an identity and a goal to work towards. Or maybe ‘fan girl-ing’ is a learnt response to show how much of a great fan they are. It could be that they want to be the ‘best’ fan out there as it gives them as sense of superiority.
The way I see it is that the fans form an attachment to the boys as they’ve seen them grow from X-factor and now they feel like they must be loyal to them. The adrenalin and endorphin’s released when dancing and looking at the ‘oh so attractive boys’ gives them a good feeling which they then associate with the boys so every time they see/hear them they get that sense of good feeling again leading them to do spam Twitter, Facebook and Youtube with confessions of their love for their music. They’re like addicts with the need for 1D.
So,comparing them to The Beatles can be understood in terms of how popular they have become but not in terms of talent. Giving the audience what they want is way different to being a musical genius.

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Homosexuality

The argument about homosexuality being a life choice has been going on for years on end now. To be frank I have no idea why this is so. Let people be who they want to be.

I notice people either saying that it’s either completely genetic or social (nature nurture) I personally think that it’s silly to say its either one or the other because its probably a mixture of both. Though to say it’s a life choice is ridiculous. No one wakes up one day and decides they will be a homosexual.

I’d just like to say if homosexuality was learnt or if it was a choice then why do we have gay and lesbians in more religious countries that sees homosexuals as being criminals? They get hung and stoned to death! Why in the world would anybody ever want to choose a life style that came with treatment like that?? It makes no sense to me. So think again before saying it’s a life choice.

‘Hamer et al. found that the gay men had more gay male uncles and cousins on the maternal side of the family than on the paternal side.’ I would link this to the finding by researchers at UC Santa Barbara and Uppsala University in Sweden who have come to realize that sexual orientation can be decided through epi-marks. These are switches that are passed down from the opposite sex parent…
Epigenetic markers are “an added layer of information that clings to our DNA,” and regulate the expression of genes according to an external trigger. The external trigger here I’m saying would probably be the uncles and perhaps the family environment in which they were ‘allowed’ to be gay.

Do You Remember …

I don’t have to state this but it was valentine yesterday and without doubt many spent their day with the people they love. I, as depressing as it may sound, spent the day wondering what the people I love were up to without me.

I remember the previous valentine with my best friends, which i tried to make special by baking cookies and writing little notes telling them how much i appreciated having them in my life, and how without them i’d be nothing. Which i must admitted came from the bottom of my heart. They were there for me when no one else was, and they were the people that turned to me when no one was there for them. We laughed and made fools of ourselves not having a care what anyone else thought,because frankly…we had each other and no one else mattered.

So what I wondered was how did it all fade away?…

I know the answer now, no one ever stays best friends or close when they’re not constantly or frequently with each other.I guess it’s just one of those things in life which we have to accept and move on with. It is hard though. The worst thing is when you know you’re the only one fighting for the relationship to carry on while the other person seems to have lost all interest  What I don’t however understand is how some one can forget all the times they’ve had together.It’s physically not possible. Atkinson and Shiffrin (1968) even showed that your long term memory literally has unlimited duration and so therefor it’s very hard to forget memories that have deep meaning behind….maybe they only had meaning for me. I hope not, otherwise i’d have wasted my time.

Is this a dream?

It makes me depressed knowing that amongst us we have a whole bunch of homophobes, racists and bullies. I dream of the day that we can all live in harmony without judging each other on stupid things that do not count. Why can’t we just see that it’s what’s on the inside that counts?

Over my short period of life I have encountered lots of idiotic human’s beings that think they’re too good to be in the presence of others. It’s people like that, that make me lose all hope for humans, I mean how can a person be so self centred and dim-witted?

Those people with their words so mean and smiles so thin don’t realise that what they say hurts. They feel the need to push people off their high again and make them feel like their nothing. It should be allowed for one human to treat another like that. It literally makes no sense in head. You have people who sort of support them as well and go with what is said. Those of the kind of people that annoy me the most they go along with what is supposed to be and seem to have no care to find out anything for them in order to have their own opinion.

For example take someone being in a school…they’ve just come out about being attracted to the same gender and instead of having people supporting them they have a whole bunch of idiots being mean to them. Don’t get me wrong the majority are ok…But it’s just one person would make a snide remark and then another would join in. I guess it may have something to do with peer pressure or may have some other psychological explanation, but I just wish it wasn’t like this.

I mean who in the world gave them the right to make another person feel that way? As far as I’m concerned no one, no on, should be made to feel like rubbish, whether it’s to do with sexuality, faith or race. I know that more than just a few of us have come to realise that rubbish like that does not matter, but unfortunately there are still some people out there who have not been enlighten with the fact that we are all equal.

We are all special in our own unique way and we mustn’t let people get us down.

Someday I’ll be living a city where everyone is equivalent

Slaves Of Society

Some times I think about how corrupt the world has become. How everyone is a slave to the mainstream ‘ideals’ on how people should dress, think and behave.

It’s as  if everyone has lost their originality which means that there isn’t anyone that ‘gets me’, and this results in me getting the feeling of being alone in the world. I just know there is more to life than keeping up to date with fashion, getting education, working, getting married and having children. There has to be.

Everyone says in the end you will get used to it and life goes on, BUT what if I don’t want to carry on like this? I want excitement in life, I want to be able to have a different adventure everyday, not stick to a schedule and most importantly I want to find out for myself what it means to actually live rather then being told how to by close minded people.

I remember when I was child and nothing mattered except I knew either that peter pan or the doctor will come along and take me on an adventure, but as I’ve grown I’ve come to realise that was just a foolish dream that can never be.

Even so I sometimes think maybe, just maybe one day some one will come along and change my mind about the world and show me that not everyone is a brainwashed zombie that follows the crowd.

First Steps With Out Me

Ever since we are children we always plan out what our future is going to be like sometimes you share these plans with a best friend who you trust with your life because you remember making that pinky promise that tied together the friend ship, which you know none of you will break -Or that’s what the innocence of childhood lets you believe-

You may sit together for hours on end together with that friend planning on how you’re going to find a cure for cancer or how you’re going to be the first person on mars; and when people around you make fun of you, you both stick together and make sure you see those dreams through.

However the sad part is when those things you were supposed to do together, you don’t do together. You grow apart and all of a sudden that pinky promise means nothing. Then you hear your best friend has taken the first steps with out you. Then you don’t know how to feel. You heart feels broken and it’s not because you not happy for them, it’s the fact that you realise that you really are on your own. This best friend comes out and tells you what they’ve started doing for their dream (your dream)  and their tone almost makes it sound like it doesn’t mean as much to them as it means to you anymore. It’s like the fact that they’ve grown up and they are ready to pursue those dreams they don’t need you anymore.

You can’t let them know your sad about that though,that will make you look…silly. Instead you try to ignore the feeling of hurt that’s starting to pour out of you heart and start to form tears which you try to blink away like your life depends on it and they don’t notice at all.

Human’s reactions and understanding of each others feelings at times can be much…undermined because for a while their own feelings are overwhelming their senses to detect any other human emotions around them. This can be almost sad when you’re in the position of the person who’s been ignored.

Why am I the only one stuck in the mindset of a 10 year old? Why are all my peers moving on and starting to become serious about life and leave childhood completely behind? I know it’s hard to remember the people we used to be but is it not crazy to just forget everything we were and everything we stood for?

Never mind, these things happen, I can run across the world on my own. I don’t need anyone; I am a strong independent Asian.

The Never Land Within Me

I turned 16 today and for some weird reason I didn’t feel happy or excited like I always do on birthdays. At first I thought it’s probably just because subconsciously I knew that 3 of my best friends Laura, Charlotte and Divine were not coming to my little “outing”. Though as the day went on I realised that that was not the reason I was not in the mood for a birthday. The real reason was perhaps the thought of not really being considered as a child anymore. I mean I know that at 15 I wasn’t a child but I could get away with completely blowing away the managers minds at job interviews with the little knowledge I have of the business world; but now I’m 16 I’m expected to know all this and more. I’m expected to get a job and start earning some money and I’m expected to behave in a manor that will reflect my age. I won’t be able to dance around singing Disney songs like I usually do because I feel that at this age it would be considered as childish and inappropriate. The thought that I have to be mature and grow up and that everything I do now will build up towards my future sort of scares me.

I know that all this is sort of typical off me worrying about the future and what not but I suppose I’m a sort of person that thinks ahead-maybe just a little too ahead-

One thing that I finally have figured out at this age is that Never Land has been with me all along and it always will be. How I hear you ask…Well ever since I saw it for the first time I tried everything to get there! I tried to find the second star by listening harder in physics (didn’t help) I sprinkled glitter on myself pretending it was fairy dust but that also didn’t help…I tried and tried many pointless methods hoping that one day I would get to Never Land and every time I tried I failed and failed again but not tonight. Tonight it was different; you see I made a wish when I blew out my candle today. I wished that I would be able to go to Never Land and it came true because I realised that I don’t have to travel to Never Land because Never Land is with me. It’s always been with me I just hadn’t realised. Yes I must grow up but not on the inside. I can still be a child singing along to every Disney song at heart. It’s just no one has to know because it’s my secret place where anything can happen; and when I find my Peter Pan I will share it with him. But for now it’s just me going on a different adventure everyday. Life doesn’t have to be all about acting a certain way to fit into society it’s about acting a way that will match up to your inner child. Although I don’t yet fully understand the concept of inner child I feel that this is the perfect place to use it.

You too can go to Never Land just…head for the second star to the right and carry straight on till morning.  I managed to get there and I’m going to stay there.